Proverbs 25:25-28 advices us on how we must relate with ourselves. We must have self control and at the same time be selfless as well.
The Scripture likens the man/woman without self control to be like a city that is broken down and without walls (Proverbs 25:28). A broken down city without walls cannot withstand the attacks that come against it and in the same manner a person without self-control is not fortified in his/her defenses against the attacks that come. We must have restraint for anything in excess including sweet honey, which can in the end be bitter, when it is not in moderation. Just as holding on to the reins of the horse can make us control the direction of the horse, so also, having a rule over one’s own spirit can make us head in the direction that we ought to.
In addition to having self control, we must be selfless as well, not seeking our own glory. The Bible says that those who search their own glory is not glory at all. (Proverbs 25:27).
Proverbs 25:27-28 (KJV)
27 It is not good to eat much honey: so for men to search their own glory is not glory.
28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.